What About Sex?


Some say that the Bible is old-fashioned and too strict. They claim that the Christian teachings on sex are out of touch with modern-day society. Singles must abstain from sex? Marriage is between a man and a woman? A married person must always be faithful to their spouse for the rest of their life? Over the last several decades there has been a revolution to do away with values like these. It began back in the 60s when the U.S. Supreme Court took prayer and the Bible out of public schools.

Today’s progressives (the new liberals) openly attack anything Christian or conservative. They want to reimagine everything. These are the ones who defend same-sex marriage. Unabashedly, they push gender fluidity on children. This is the crowd that believes in getting a divorce and re-marrying as often as they please. But consider all the troubles we go through when we get away from the Bible.

In America—much like ancient Sodom and Gomorrah—our society’s sexual perversions and excesses are all out in the open for everyone to see. You can find strip clubs in every state. Porn is all over the net. It’s common practice for advertisers to use sex to manipulate consumers. Sexually explicit content is on TV, at the movies, in the music. It’s even in the cartoons. But it gets treated as totally normal and acceptable. The casual but constant promotion of sex has influenced our culture and desensitized us more than we know.

According to an FBI crime report: “In the United States there were an estimated 139,815 rapes reported to law enforcement in 2019.” * We have prostitution. We have human trafficking. We have child molestation.

Every year Americans die by the thousands from sexually transmitted diseases. The CDC reports that more than 2.5 million Americans contracted STDs in the year/s before the pandemic. In an annual report the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention informed the public: “Cases of sexually transmitted diseases in the United States continued to climb in 2019, reaching an all-time high for the sixth consecutive year.” * Is this the new normal?

America has seen the normalization of abortion with more than half a million pregnant mothers killing their unborn children every year.

There was a story at the beginning of 2022 about a New Mexico teen mom who threw her newborn baby into a garbage dumpster and then drove off. *

Fortunately, not everybody thinks these things are normal or acceptable. In Texas they call their safe-haven laws the “Baby Moses law.” Mothers in crisis can legally and safely relinquish their babies to designated locations: hospitals, fire stations, different emergency centers… with no questions asked. In these places the babies are protected and provided with medical care until a permanent home is found for them. *

In an article for Fox News reporter Michael Ruiz writes: “All 50 states have “safe haven” laws that allow newborn children to be surrendered safely to a designated location, according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.” *

This should be the message of educators and lawmakers – “We must protect the innocent and most vulnerable.”

Gay Is Not The Way

Unfortunately, some of our leaders and teachers are the predators. The worst part is that little children are now being targeted for indoctrination into the gay and transgender community. That’s why liberals started using the legal term “domestic terrorists” to label parents who ask too many questions at school board meetings or that speak out publicly about these perverted and unwanted lessons being taught to their children.

            When Florida passed a bill (Parental Rights in Education Act) to prevent sexual orientation and gender identity from being taught from kindergarten through third grade, the Left became livid. Of course, Democrats rallied against it. The woke mob condemned it. The LGBT community denounced it. Even the woke CEO of Disney tried to challenge it. These perverts need to reorient themselves.

An organization called BlockTraffik produced a series of teaching videos that help people identify some of the warning signs and tactics used by sexual predators and human traffickers, including how they target and acquire a new victim. The goal of #BlockTraffik is to protect and educate. These professionals have been reaching out to offer different resources and support to youths of every community. And they are teaching children that they are “a precious gift from God.” *

Liberals like to change the language. This is how they change the culture. They argue over the meaning of words to make the unacceptable acceptable and the illegal legal. Take pedophilia for example. Adults who are sexually attracted to minors are pedophiles. But in 2021, a professor of Old Dominion University in Norfolk, Virginia defended pedophiles, saying they should be called minor-attracted persons as it is less stigmatizing. *

More than 14,000 signed a petition calling for the removal of the perverted trans professor of Old Dominion. They made it clear that “pedophilia should not be considered a sexual preference.” We don’t need to get rid of the stigma. We need to get rid of the sin.

Strangely enough, a few years earlier a Rutgers-Camden law professor, herself an NYU and Harvard graduate, wrote a 2014 article for The New York Times titled Pedophilia: A Disorder, Not a Crime. This is how liberals change things over time – they repeat the same lie over and over again. They’re not trying to educate. They’re trying to indoctrinate.

In a 2013 article for The Heritage Foundation, a professor of politics writes: “At the 2012 Democratic National Convention, progressives officially supported same-sex marriage as a civil right and unofficially rejected the word God in their platform.” *

This honest and very candid college professor reminds us of a shift that took place in our society: “President Barack Obama, labeled the “First Gay President” by Newsweek for his support of gay rights, has instructed the Attorney General of the United States not to defend the Defense of Marriage Act.” *

It is no coincidence that this shameless pandering to gay voters took place during an election year. Supporters in Seattle walked around with signs showing pictures of Obama and the words THANKS FOR EVOLVING ON SAME SEX MARRIAGE. *

The president’s former sidekick Joe Biden, himself a master manipulator, was able to stick to the script and play to the crowd, saying that discrimination against transgender people is “the civil rights issue of our time.”

What’s going on in our nation is really disturbing when you think about it. There are men having sex with men and women having sex with women. Some people are so confused that they don’t know what sex they are. And the rest of us are supposed to keep our mouths shut about it and act like it’s perfectly normal and nothing’s wrong?

Concerning a biological virus, we were told to “follow the science.” But concerning the gender you were born with it’s whatever people want it to be? These willful and rebellious ones will tell you that their sex is their “choice.” But then they will violate your freedom to “choose” what to think about these things by demanding that you address them by certain pronouns. The most insecure of them seem to be the most vocal.

Personally, I don’t think that it’s healthy to speak the lie. The truth is that there are only two sexes. God made them male and female. Men and women share some things in common. But other elements of our natures differ. It is not only your physical body that makes you a man or a woman. You have a soul. And nobody’s soul was accidently put in the wrong body. Which means that nobody was “born gay.”

Spiritual Forces

Now there is such a thing as wrong spirits. They seek to influence people’s thoughts and desires. If you starve wrong desires, they will grow weaker over time. If you yield to them, they will get stronger. That’s how an unnatural desire can feel like a part of who you are–when really it is something strange and foreign, something outside of you that is trying to come inside.

A man should dress like a man. He should talk and act like a man. A woman should dress like a woman. She should talk and act like a woman. When a man acts feminine and pretends to be a woman it is perverted and wrong. It’s false and disingenuous. It’s a lie. And he is trying to be something that he can never truly be. When a woman is attracted to and has sex with other women it is unnatural. There are spiritual forces involved. Wrong spirits are influencing her to live a perverted and un-Godly lifestyle.

The mad man of Gadara lived in a cemetery, ran around naked and cut his body with sharp rocks. This was not “a learned behavior.” Neither was it “hereditary.” He was not “born that way.” There really is such a thing as spiritual forces. Demons (evil spirits) perverted his mind and compelled him to act as he did. His condition was the result of demonic influence. But he did not have to remain in that condition. When he came to Jesus he was delivered. And his radical transformation became a powerful testimony and witness to others. (see Mark 5)

When you just live your life for yourself, seeking your own satisfaction and fulfilment, it is difficult to change. If you are content with self-gratification, then that is all the reward you will ever get.

As believers we have all kinds of help to become the sort of men and women God wants us to be. We have the Word of God to renew our minds. We have authority in Jesus’ name to cast out wrong spirits. We have the power of the Holy Spirit to cleanse us and guide us. We can have fellowship with other believers, which encourages us. We can submit ourselves to spiritual leaders who hold us accountable. And we can get to work. Being in your place staying busy with what you were called to do helps keeps you out of trouble.

            Not everything is a spirit. Some things are just flesh. Concerning the natural attraction for the opposite sex, we need only to keep our flesh under control. You cannot cast out your flesh – you must crucify it.

Sex Is Only for The Married

Being myself a man I know how stupid us men can get around women. We can just flesh out. We have in fact learned from society not to control our fleshly desires. But what will all the playboys say when they stand before God on Judgment Day, and He asks these men why they treated His daughters like prostitutes?

You do not have any control over how others act. But you are responsible for how you respond. Remember the story of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife? (see Genesis 39)

Guys, you should look at younger girls as your daughters, older women as your mothers, and females your same age as sisters. Don’t act like a predator.

Men and women, if you are married, my advice to you is to avoid places and situations that lead you into temptation. If you’re married and meet someone you consider attractive, don’t spend any of your off-time alone with them, even if they are just a coworker.

If you’re single and meet someone you really like, then be their friend before you try to be anything else. Get to know them first. And don’t be fake and phony. Give them a chance to find out who you are too. For the Christian man or woman, the goal of dating is not to have sex. The purpose of a date is for two people to get to know each other.

The Bible gives us an un-perverted view of these things…


Sex was God’s idea. So was the covenant of marriage. And the Bible clears up any confusion there might be about the two. Marriage is between a man and a woman. Sex is a natural part of such a close and physical relationship. But sex outside of marriage is fornication. As one Christian theologian put it: “Sex is only for the married.”

The marriage vow is a declaration of love and commitment between a husband and wife. Sex is an act and expression of this love. Its biological purpose is to produce children. Sex was meant to be enjoyed by life-long partners, not strangers. It is only proper for two married adults to have a sex-life in private, not public.

We can be offended at God or we can be offended at sin, but these things are not my opinions.

The Bible says…


Marriage is honorable in every respect; and, in particular, sex within marriage is pure. But God will indeed punish fornicators and adulterers. (Hebrews 13:4 Complete Jewish)

A Simple Principle

It’s not a sin to have wrong desires, but it is a sin to yield to them. There is a difference between something you struggle with and something you celebrate.

Back when I worked security in a psyche ward, I noticed something that was common among all the psyche patients, especially the ones with the most severe behavioral health issues. They were extremely focused on themselves.

You will never stop sinning by “trying to stop sinning.” You have to feed right desires and starve wrong ones. A woman of God by the name of Gloria Copeland has taught this spiritual principle – Your desires follow your attention. Whatever you pay attention to is what you will desire.

If you look at so-called “soft porn” on the internet, it may seem harmless, but it will feed your wrong desires. And they will grow stronger until you become frustrated. If you avoid places of temptation, but instead spend time focused on the Word and enjoy healthy distractions and edifying entertainment, you won’t be bothered at all. Your mind will be on other things. The holy lifestyle you thought was impossible could turn out to be effortless.

            Instead of getting our sex-ed from the world this generation should look to the Word and to mature men and women of God. We have all these societal pressures put on us from the time we are young adults: have sex, get married, make money, start your own company, be a boss, retire early, etc.

Of course (in our culture) nobody has to get married if they don’t want to. There is such a thing as being happily single. And no one should feel like they must get married by a certain age. For adults there are no rules when it comes to deciding whether or not to get married. God is gracious. You have liberty to choose. But it is wisdom to seek Godly counsel.

A Bit of Advice

Before being married it helps to get ready physically, emotionally, and financially. It’s easy to get married but it takes responsibility and humility to stay married. That’s why the proud and careless get divorced so quickly. They are too selfish and/or just not ready.

If you’re in faith about finding a life-long partner, then get ready. Faith gets ready. If you think that you’ve found the one, don’t rush things. Patience will allow two people to get to know each other first. Faith and patience go together.

It is unwise to enter a relationship thinking you will change the other person. It is wisdom to wait and see what this other person is really like, in good times and bad times. If you choose to marry each other, then choose to love each other — always. Love will make your relationship stronger than anything that comes against it. In fact, love will make any and all of your relationships much richer. Love is not a feeling. It’s a discipline. And the chief expression of love is giving.

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